I never thought I would want to write such a blog post. But I could not constrain myself after the recent (shameful) incident in Bengaluru. This involved the sexual abuse of a 6-year old kid, inside the school premises. Read more here.
This raises a lot of questions in the mind of a parent like me (I am sure you would agree):
- Are our children really safe in the society – be it school, playground etc.?
- What can we do on our part to minimize the risks?
- How do we react when our own child is a victim?
I definitely have the answer to my first question – they are NOT safe. Shameful we must feel, but this apparently is the fact.
Now coming to the second question, here are some thoughts.
- Talk to your child everyday. Especially in the evenings, after school. Let them narrate what happened in school. It serves two purposes – Children normally enjoy attention, so this makes them really happy that someone is interested in their life. They bring out any abnormalities during their narration, which can be critical in uncovering bitter truths
- Make them realise sexual differences and cultures that exist in society. For example, stop dressing in front of them – excuse them when you have to dress. This makes them realise that dressing (or undressing) is a private activity and must be alarmed when a stranger attempts it with them
- Teach them as how to behave with friends, relatives or strangers. Make them understand that intimate touches and kisses must be kept to a minimum (or avoided). This makes them realise that when a stranger is attempting these, then something is wrong
These are a few thoughts from the top of my mind. I will definitely try to put them in practice with my son – who is not so young anymore.
Coming to the third question, this is the most difficult part. I cannot imagine right now about my reaction, but I am sure to try and behave in a mature fashion.
What do you think about this incident? Were you or any of your friends were victims to such heinous crimes? I would like to share ideas and look for ways to make things safer for our precious children.